“The worst thing in life is not to die but to live with bitterness.”Vitor Belfort
Sometimes we try very hard to make something good out of our lives. We take all the risks, pay prices but things still don’t work out to our advantage. Misfortunes and disappointments keep coming, we feel stuck and begin to feel frustrated.
When things continue going bad, emotions begin to yield to the negative energy and we gradually start resisting life, and the negativity grows into bitterness and the likes. So many people resent their lives because of what they have been through.
They feel as if everything in life was designed to be against them. Life is not just sweet. Bitterness can be directed at anything, an idea, a person, and even an object.
Fight the Bitterness
The truth is life is sometimes just unfair, we wish all the good things for ourselves but only bad things come. We just try to push the blame on anything or anyone we see.
Life is a mixture of ups and downs, peaks, and valleys. Do not be afraid or ashamed to reach out for help. Sometimes we can’t just do something on our own, that’s why family and friends are there.
“Don’t let anger control you, Don’t let hate enslave you.Matshona Dhliwayo
Don’t let negativity overcome you, Don’t let bitterness conquer you.”
Bitterness in Relationships
Many people have been betrayed by their partners. After all the promises made and the good times and memories created, giving their body and soul and even taking tremendous risks to keep the relationship happy but were still cheated on and betrayed.
All kinds of negative emotions can come as a result of that betrayal; anger, pain, feeling stupid, foolish, damaged.
People lament and say things like “I gave marriage and relationship advice to others and I never expected something like that could happen to me.”
They have always pictured their relationships as perfect and trust their partners completely.
On their part, they expect loyalty and faithfulness as a reward for their sacrifices and when all these efforts are betrayed, they feel deceived and disappointed.
Shame can also be experienced because people talk, laugh, make examples with them, and so on.
Bitterness can creep in through these openings and enter to the extent that revenge comes into the person’s mind and they start wishing evil and even plot to hurt the other person.
They wish the misery they feel on the source of their bitterness and do all they can to drag the person down with them. This bitterness can take time to overcome.
It is not easy but you have to fight it. You may have lost your partner but you do not have to lose yourself.
Do not allow that pain deep inside you to keep eating you up. You fight with everyone else as if they are part of the cause of your pain.
Your bitterness is costing you other beautiful relationships because it has blinded you and made you not care anymore. Seeing someone else happy disturbs you.
You cannot continue like that especially if you have kids because bitterness can be transferred and you will end up losing far more than you can bargain for.
People can sense bitterness and most will run away from you. You have to let it go and move on with your life. You have to find a way and forgive.
This is one of the most difficult things to do ever but the benefits cannot be over-emphasized.
Bad Times will Come
Bad times will come and we may not be ready when that happens or even like what we get but it’s part of life.
The people we trust fail and we also fail. We often cannot get our wishes even after doing all our best to be honest, righteous, and pure.
You have to make an intentional decision to let go of that grudge. There is this feeling inside you urging you to give them a taste of their own medicine but do not give in because it will continue to keep you on that painful part.
Let go of the anger and pain inside you, give yourself the chance to experience new life. There is more out there and believe me, even though time is short. Magic still happens every day.
You may find it hard to believe but this same person who is your everything today will turn out to be a distant memory tomorrow covered up by more beautiful and fulfilling ones.
Sometimes forgiveness may not lead to reconciliation with the other party and the reasons may include the person not being sorry for what they have done and not seeing the need to talk to you again.
In other cases, they have disappeared or have died and there is no way of reaching them.
The important thing is the fact that you were able to free yourself from the shackles of bitterness and you are now making progress towards building your life back and restoring other relationships that have suffered as a result of those series of unfortunate events.
Overcome Bitterness Biblically
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”Romans 3:23
We have had a lot of failures in our lives and have not lived right the way God wants us to live. But God didn’t give us a taste of our medicine.
While we were deep inside our sins and freely enjoying all the evil things we were doing to ourselves and others, He acted and helped us even without us asking for it because we didn’t know that the end of that road we were on, was certain death.
God sent his son Jesus Christ to die for us on behalf of all those sins we have committed so that we will not be condemned but be saved and set free.
This kind of sacrifice and love no man knows but we are free today because God let go of our own sins. He is also asking that for us to continue enjoying his forgiveness, we too have to forgive others.
We are not able to do this by our strengths alone and God knows that. He is always near us to help us if we will let him.
God is the one that gives the strength to forgive. Apart from God, we cannot truly forgive. It will not be easy but you can forgive that person, repay no one evil for evil says that Lord.
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. When you yield to God to help you, he will forgive you also and return back to you all the years you lost to bitterness.
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